The premise of our new book, The Missing Commandment—Love Yourself, is that to be truly healed, free, and fully alive, we must love ourselves and like ourselves just as much as God loves us and really likes us. And then we must turn around and love others the same way.
Jesus said, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence.’ This is the most important [of God’s commandments], the first on any list. But there is a second to set alongside it: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ These two commands are pegs; everything in God’s Law and the Prophets hangs from them” (Matthew 22:37–40 MSG, emphasis added).
I can begin to love myself by being gentle to myself, being grace-filled toward myself, being responsible, caring, and attentive to myself. In this way, I can grow and discover who I am, which is who God says I am. From this place of identity, the Father will unveil my destiny, the plans he has for me. As this transformation takes place, there will be a new set of freedoms that will begin to evolve within my spirit—where I can begin to discover:
I am free to make choices that bring me life beyond mere survival.
I am free to have my own values and way of doing things.
I am free to make decisions that honor my own priorities.
I am free to respect myself enough to say no when that is best for me.
I am free to make mistakes and not be perfect.
I am free to relax and rest without feeling that I have to be busy to approve of myself.
I am free to forgive myself and not hold any part of myself in contempt.
I am free to feel my emotions, work through my emotions, and not shame my emotions.
I am free from being responsible for the feelings of others.
I am free from being a fixer, a savior, or a peacekeeper.
I am free to embrace change and growth within me.
I am free to love myself and receive love because I have value and worth.
I am free to be fully me.
When I am good to myself, I am God to myself. That is when I really love who God loves–and He loves ME!