“Could A Weakness Become Your Strength?”

We are all born with inherent gifts (strengths) that are given to us by God. Part of growing up is learning what those strengths are so we can use them to fulfill our destiny and calling.  Now here is the problem. boy lifting weightsWe all know that we are shaped by our childhood—including areas where we are wounded by others. And do you know what we discovered? Some weaknesses are actually God-given strengths that are covered over by pain, fear, and walls. We can also develop ungodly ways to protect ourselves that can be misconstrued as strength of character. How very convenient of the enemy to confuse our identity to try to thwart our destiny!

My Weakness Became My Strength

For the first 35 years of my life, I (Jerry) hated dealing with conflict. Because I grew up with a lot of anger in my home, I learned to avoid conflict at all cost. My motto was “Let’s just all get along.” In other words, I became a peacekeeper. Through an extensive healing process, I dealt with this wounded part of my heart. I was no longer afraid of conflict. In fact, it became important to me to “engage” in rather than “avoid” situations where conflict was likely—especially when there was a possibility of reconciliation and resolution. Initially, dealing with conflict would have been identified as one of my “weaknesses,” but later it became one of my God-given “strengths.”

My Strength Was Hidden by Shame

I (Denise) remember a time when I was about five-years-old. My two little cousins were visiting and I had a great idea to swing on the metal clothesline. As you can imagine, the line broke and my father came out. I thought he would yell at me, but he just gave me a “shame-on-you” look and said disgustingly, “Where do you come up with these ideas?” That was it. No spanking or time in the corner.

Now, fast-forward fifty years and let me tell you what God showed me. My creativity had been hidden by this wound of shame. I learned when I was five, that new ideas were risky. So to avoid the possibility that my ideas were wrong or worse yet, stupid, I learned to conform (people-please) and put away my creativity and even my opinions. Fifty years later, I found out I have a gift of creativity—a strength—that was lying dormant in the wound of shame.

The Bottom Line

The bottom line is that we need to ask God to show us our strengths and calling. We must be willing to bring our hearts to God and allow Him to reveal and heal places that have shaped our past, so then they will no longer shape our future! We can become who we uniquely are according to the original blueprints.

Until next week . . . 


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8 thoughts on ““Could A Weakness Become Your Strength?”

  1. More, more, more… I look so forward to all that you write..it ALWAYS speaks right to my heart..
    what a blessing you are to me..
    The first prophetic word I ever received way back in the 80’s was that my strength was my weakness… I am going to ponder that more in light of your post today…
    Have a Merry Christmas,


  2. Thanks for opening up and sharing about your weaknesses! I was curious if you have some resources to dig a little deeper in conflict resolution versus avoidance? I have a similar past as you mentioned and I’m tired of running from everything.


  3. Dear Jerry,

    Thanks for your comment/question. There are some good resources on how to effectively confront and have a difficult conversation. One that might be helpful is “How to Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding . . . ” by Cloud and Townsend. You can find it on Amazon. However, the most important thing for me (Jerry) was to identify why I avoided conflict (childhood wounds) and then to find the healing needed for those wounds. The fear that drives this avoidance can then ultimately be removed. Our book deals with these core wounds.


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