One very common issue we encounter in working with clients is the struggle with self-acceptance–which includes accepting every part of ourselves at every age. It doesn’t mean that we’re necessarily pleased with everything we have done throughout our lives, but God doesn’t pick and choose what parts of us He accepts. He accepts ALL of us and we must do the same.
We may do fine much of the time, but when we make a mistake or don’t live up to our own expectations, we find ourselves defaulting to self-rejection rather than self-acceptance. In those situations we are often quite “unkind” to ourselves.
A former client just sent us a music video from Andrew Peterson entitled, Be Kind to Yourself. As Christians, we totally get that we are supposed to “love our enemies.” But what if one of those enemies is YOU? An enemy is an enemy–myself or someone else. It makes no difference.
Here is the song:
A Declaration of Self-Acceptance
This song reminds us of the “Declaration of Self-Acceptance” that we included in our book, The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself. Read it aloud and remember that what you are reading is in full agreement with what God says about you.
I am me. I am made in the very image of God, just a little lower than the angels. I am unique. In the entire world there is no one exactly like me. This means that I am important to God.
I can accept myself because God accepts me. I can love myself because God loves me. I know that I matter because God sent his Son, Jesus Christ, and through him he gave me the chance to live abundantly and eternally.
I do not have to be perfect in order to be loved, because God loves me as I am— imperfect. This means that I am important even when I have rough edges in my life and when I make mistakes, even big ones. I can fail. I can stumble. God still says, “I love you!” I don’t have to have everything in the right order or have everything cleaned up for God to accept me. And in knowing this, I can live with myself. I have hope that I can take all that I am and all that I have to God—the good and the bad—and he will keep on helping me grow more and more into his image.
I can be totally honest. I can be my child-of-God self. I look forward to the plans he has for me. With his help and guidance, I will become a reflection of his love and acceptance toward myself and others.
So I accept the fact that I am important, that I have value and worth. I have eternal value. I love myself and I like myself, every part, because I choose to love who he loves—and that is me.
If you have 2 minutes, click on the audio mp3 link below, close your eyes, and reflectively listen and drink in these declarations for yourself. And remember His too-good-to-be-true good news: He loves you and He likes you–every part of you–and He will never reject you. Let’s do what He does!
Until next time . . .
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