When we counsel individuals and couples, we look for the “drivers”—those things that are underneath the behaviors that cause the problems they are experiencing. One of these drivers is toxic, lie-based shame. The problem with this type of shame is that it has different “faces” and often remains hidden. In fact, many people we counsel are surprised when they discover they have a great deal of shame.
Keeping shame hidden might seem like a good idea. You may be thinking, “Why would I want to go and find this?” The problem is that its effects do not remain hidden. It shows up in our lives in many ways—especially in our relationships— and can create quite a mess for ourselves and others.
Here are two short video clips where we take a look at different “faces” of toxic shame. If you sense that these describe you or someone you are close to, take a step further and read “Shame and the Lies We Believe,” Chapter 8 in our book, The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself.
Click on the videos below to view these two clips:
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Watch for more of these clips as we will be uploading some to YouTube each week and posting them here.
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If you or someone you know is in need of finding a safe place for emotional and/or spiritual healing and restoration, please contact us at The Father’s Heart Intensive Christian Counseling Ministry. Check out our web site at www.fathersheart.com or email us directly at firstname.lastname@example.org. We are located in the North Georgia Mountains in a retreat-like setting to counsel individuals or couples for periods of two to five-days in length.