“What in the World Drives My Actions?”

Whenever we counsel, we are always looking for the “drivers” that are causing problems in our behavior and in our relationships. As we shared in a previous video, one of the most powerful drivers is “lie-based, toxic shame.” In this first video clip below, Jerry shares examples of how these drivers manifested in his life. […]

“I Don’t Think I Have Toxic Shame—or Do I?” Watch Now!

When we counsel individuals and couples, we look for the “drivers”—those things that are underneath the behaviors that cause the problems they are experiencing. One of these drivers is toxic, lie-based shame. The problem with this type of shame is that it has different “faces” and often remains hidden. In fact, many people we counsel […]

Watch Now! “Childhood Wounds Matter” and “Guilt versus Shame”

Here are two new 1-4 minute video clips taken from a seminar we conducted in Sanibel, Florida on The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself. Sometimes all we need is a brief insight on a topic or an answer to a question, and we believe that these video clips can provide just that. They may help you or someone […]

Listen Now: Four Radio Broadcasts by Luis Palau from Our Book “The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself”

As we shared in our most recent blog post, we are very honored and humbled that excerpts from our book, The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself, have been shared this week by Luis Palau (http://www.palau.org) on his radio show, “Reaching Your World.” These 80-second spots have been broadcast on 1,450 radio stations reaching millions. In addition, the message […]

Excerpts from “The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself” on the Luis Palau Radio Program

We are pleased to announce that excerpts from our book, The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself, are being shared every day this week by Luis Palau on his radio show, “Reaching Your World.” These 80-second spots are airing on 1,450 radio stations reaching millions.  In addition, the message of our book will be promoted by Luis Palau Ministries […]

“Now Available–‘The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself’ Video Clips“

We are excited to announce the release of the 1st of 35 short video clips that address various topics from our book, The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself—How Loving Yourself the Way God Does Can Bring Healing and Freedom to Your Life. These video clips are from one to five minutes in length and are taken from a […]

“What It Takes to Be Fully Engaged” – A Guest Blog

Everyone who wants to be fully engaged with God, self, and others, needs to ask themselves the following three questions: Do I understand the Greatest Commandment and take it seriously? Do I understand that I can love God wholeheartedly only if I have received, embraced, and cherished His deep love for me? Do I understand that […]

“Healing Captive Hearts – A Special Invitation”

Together, we have a great opportunity to help some very special women find healing for their broken and captive hearts. Let us explain . . . Captive Hearts (www.captivehearts.org) is an outreach ministry in California for women who have been released from jail or prison and are given follow-up care, guidance and loving support. The staff teach […]

“What Mask Do You Wear?”

It took many years for me to realize that I (Jerry) operated out of my unmet needs, which shaped many of my actions. I was what many would consider a “nice guy.” But in reality, my heart wasn’t so nice. Because of some core love deficits that only became known to me in my middle […]

What Our Editor Is Saying About “Loving God, Loving Myself”

Here Is What Our Editor Bob Hartig Recently Posted on Facebook Ta-da! My friends, Jerry and Denise Basel’s new book, in time for Christmas. It’s an encouraging, honest,and insightful traveling companion written by two veteran Christian counselors. The Basels are a sweet, gracious, and savvy couple, and it is an honor to serve them as their editor. […]